How do you ask your partner for anal?
We (ladies) have all been asked by our significant others if we would do it. We have all cringed at the thought of it, maybe even smiled about it (perverted ones). But for some of us the idea of it is painful, it even makes us squeeze our buttcheeks together because we have been asked if we want to perform:
Buggery: (v) A sexual activity involving stimulation of a sexual partner”s anus and/or rectum, especially by penetration.
Although it is often considered “taboo”, it’s even in the Kama Sutra books, anal sex can be enjoyable for both parties IF done correctly by both parties involved. Once you and your partner have decided you want to try it, it is probably a good idea to start of “small”. NO WAY do you want him to ass fuck you immediately with his dick. OUCH! It’s generally a good idea to start with maybe a finger or two, and work your way up. The reason for this is that it is not normal to put things into your ass. It is usually used for and “exit only” act. Your ass if full of sphincter muscles that contract when you penetrate it. It is an automatic response. Cmon ladies, don’t act like you and your man were having sex and changed positions in the dark and he went to reinsert and you were like “that’s not it!”. It’s normal to clench up that is why it is important to take little steps.
We recommend possibly with some foreplay to get in the mood. Have him finger you and slowly massage or rub around your asshole. ***Note: before ANY insertion takes place you need to make sure that your hands are clean and free of bacteria, who want an infection in their ass! Now to ease in the insertion of the finger we recommend lube. A WATER BASED LUBRICANT. Not this fancy sweet sex juicy shit we use in foreplay. Do you want an infection? Sugar + bodily fluids = INFECTION. (we speak from experience). It also helps if he is manicured and doesn’t have long nails. Use one finger to start, once you feel comfortable with it and not clenching up so much, move onto a small dildo or sex toy of some sort. Not your favorite 9″ dildo! A small finger stimulated dildo that is small but thicker than your finger. It should work fine. Once you are comfortable with that THEN move onto the penis.
It may take a few times before you are comfortable with it. Shit, you may hate it and that ends the discussion for you. However, have an open mind, let him try. It definately is pleasing for the man as your asshole is much tighter than your vagina. It will feel better for him. Now believe it or not ladies, anal sex can cause orgasms. The anal wall is very close to the vaginal wall and the well known “g-spot” we all have. If done correctly, not just ramming it in, he could stimulate that and send you over the edge as well as him. Start by putting in the head first, see how that feels, once the head is in, the rest should be easy. Once you get going it might be uncomfortable at first, but eventually you will get into it and the fact that you are pleasing your man and at the same time reaching a new sexual encounter for yourself as well, plus it will make it an amazing new overall experience.
As for switching it up, if you decide that you want to go back to normal vaginal sex before he cums, BE SURE TO HAVE HIM CLEAN OFF HIS DICK FIRST! You do not want an infection in your hooha. Wet wipes work well also if he doesn’t feel like waiting for the faucet in the bathroom to get warm and grab the soap and clean it off, potentially causing him to go soft. Keep them by the side of the bed along with the lube and toys. Don’t use a perfume wet wipe either, that shit burns!
In closing, we all feel that you should at least try it. You may like it. You may not. Either way you can know you have tried anal sex and have formed your own decision on how it feels. We personally love it! But then again, not every lady out there is as open as we are. Literally…. Heck what’s another notch on the sex belt?
Kisses
Mistress Samatha and Miss Syndi
xoxo
